One of the commitments I’ve made since Day 1 of writing this blog is to be transparent and authentic. One colleague recently affirmed this by saying to me, “You stand in your truth.” I was humbled by her comment and took it to heart because I know how important it is for me to do that.
I aspire to be refreshing, energizing and inspiring in my words and in my tone. I’ve learned there is immense power in being honest about ourselves and our struggles and that it gives other people permission to be open and honest about theirs. I invite people to be curious rather than passing judgment. This makes them feel safe, and it builds trust.
As part of my journey, I’ve had a constantly changing relationship with my self-image, confidence, health and weight. As I shared in my most vulnerable blog post in late December, I’ve been on a healing journey with my body and have been working to restore my health and well-being.
I’ve gone from being clinically malnourished only two years ago to looking and feeling alive, vibrant, radiant and whole today.
Throughout that process, I struggled emotionally, fighting fears of weight gain and what the public perception would be of “the wellness person” gaining weight. But I did what I knew I had to do to get my life back and give my body what it needed to feel its best.
I stopped weighing myself and now focus on the process of being well. This is what has worked for me, so I simply offer my story as an invitation to get curious about your own life and open up to a different way of thinking. Today, I care more about how my body feels and functions and less about a three-digit number that doesn’t tell the whole story.
I eat nourishing, whole, colorful food and cook most meals at home with my husband.
I make time to savor what I’m eating, so that I can truly taste it and enjoy it, whether it’s a piece of dark chocolate or a roasted sweet potato.
I move my body regularly in ways that I enjoy and in ways that challenge me.
I surround myself with a loving, supportive, and fun community.
I’m involved in my church and make it a priority to give back.
I continue to pursue purpose-driven work that makes me feel alive.
Instead of using weight as my motivation for eating the way I do, I align how I eat with my life’s greater purpose, which is to bring hope, inspiration and empowerment to people through food and stories, so they can feel better and be the best version of themselves.
When I feel my best, I can be my best for others.
I eat the way I do to have lasting energy, a stable and lifted mood, a strong immune system that keeps me healthy, boosted physical performance, glowing skin, and thick hair. Food has given me my life back and the life in food has gievn me life.
So, how about you?
Do you ever get hung up on the number on the scale? Have you ever allowed it to dictate your day? How you feel? How you see yourself? Whether you wear certain clothes or show up at an event? How much power and control do you give that number?
When weight is our only metric of “success,” we might not notice improvements in our mood, sleep, energy, skin, and performance that come along the way.
When we focus too much on the outcome, we often miss out on what the process is teaching us.
Being aware of our weight is not bad or wrong in and of itself, but when we obsess about it and let it run our lives and dictate how we feel on a daily basis, it can do more harm than good. Even Weight Watchers, a company whose very focus is weight, recently launched a new program called “Beyond the Scale” because they realize their customers are seeking something more.
If they can invite people to do that, so can we.
The most enduring, highest quality form of motivation comes from within us, not from the outside. If we want our motivation to last and our habits to stick, it’s important that we tap into something deeper and identify compelling reasons why we’re living the way we’re living and eating the way we’re eating.
For that reason, I invite you to identify something that I call your “Weightless Why”. What are the reasons you are motivated or inspired to nourish your body in a way that fuels you to be the best version of yourself that has nothing to do with the number on the scale?
Here are just a few reasons I’ve come up with over the years that motivate me:
- Feeling energized
- More stable and elevated mood
- Better mental focus
- Being medication-free!
- No more seasonal allergies
- No more acid reflux
- Bronchitis and ear infections are a thing of the past
- A strong immune system that keeps me well (even when everyone else is sick!)
- Warm tone/color to my skin
- Clear skin (best of my life!)
- No more aches and pains
- Enhanced athletic performance and recovery
- Improved digestion
- Better sleep
- To support local, sustainable farming practices and farmers
Which of those reasons resonate with you? Are there any that I missed that you would add?
I’d love to hear from YOU about your “Weightless Why.”
Feel free to leave a comment below.